What is our strength?
“A strong woman is crying at the window ...” I do not think that a strong woman cannot cry in principle. I am convinced that this one will not cry because she is strong.
|Galina Timoshenko, psychologist and TV presenter|
I do not believe in it, and that’s it! First, let's figure out who in everyday life is called a strong woman. Usually this is a successful lady, the mistress of her own business, or - in any case - a leader of a rather high rank. She easily copes with her leadership responsibilities, while managing to rest where she wants, to look just right for the cover of a glossy magazine. She has everything - the upper class. That is why she is called strong. And, apparently, precisely for the same reasons, she periodically cries at the window.
It is possible that one of the readers has a completely different image of a strong woman. If this image does not imply obligatory suffering about one's own excess power, then my text will not interest such readers. And if, after all, the image is different, but still exhausting under the burden of its omnipotence, then reading the sequel may not hurt ...
In other words, I’m not ready to consider the strong woman the very one - successful, who succeeds, but who somehow suffers from this. Who can still be considered a strong woman?
What is power? Nothing implies that women have some kind of special power that is different from men's. So, I propose using force to consider exactly the same thing as in physics: a vector quantity, which is a measure of the interaction of material systems. Do not worry, all this can be easily translated into an understandable language. We are talking about just two things. Force is necessarily directed at something, since it is a vector quantity, and it acts on something in the world around us.
To do what you want is untold pleasure
If we talk about power in a special psychological understanding, then it turns out that power is the ability to influence the world around us, and it is desirable in the direction in which its owner wants it.
This is where the question arises: if I am a strong woman,
able to achieve what I really want with all my heart, why should I cry ?! I am not doing what I really want, or doing it with such inhuman efforts that all the gain from what is done fades before them, no matter how great it is.
Well, what about power, tell me, if this notorious strong woman is not able to resist the opinions of others or some circumstances?
Another possible reason for tears: a person is tormented because, although he does what he earnestly desires, it costs him so much that he does not bring any joy, only suffering. Here unpleasant suspicions arise - about the mental abilities of such a sufferer. After all, it turns out that he chooses the means decisively inadequate (which, you will agree, does not indicate a great mind). And, if a person does not suffer from mental usefulness, can he be considered strong?
We give out the title of a strong woman too generously - only on the basis of pronounced success. But really strong people are rare - like talented writers, doctors, or mathematicians. And another myth: the strength of a woman is in her weakness. After all, to achieve the desired from a man, pretending to be weak, is very easy. The man immediately begins to seem like a hero to himself. But note: FOOT! And what would she do if not a single man was around? Toil, because he will not be able to get what he wants. So, it's not about power.
But if a woman has to pretend to be weak, then this means that she is strong in the sense that she is capable of doing everything she wants so that all efforts do not exceed the gain! You will say that she can do all this, she just wants someone else to do it for her! But to do what I want is such an unspeakable pleasure!
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