Reader Letters: Anti-Crisis History
Three years ago I divorced my husband. My feelings are resentment, anger, guilt, fear ... and as a result, depression. But next to us are always those for whom it is worth throwing depression into a landfill.
I was indignant why not a single man looked at me. Until a friend said: “Lenok, look at yourself - an extinct look in which there is no life and it is written: all men are their own ...”. How, without loving yourself, can someone love us? But the way it is. After a couple of years, I met a wonderful person who fell in love with me. And I kept tormenting him with the question: “Do you love me?” I proved to myself that I could still be loved. And self-confidence ... where was she? And was there anyway?
This was the beginning of my anti-crisis program. What was the impetus? Awareness of your problem and desire to change your life. And I slowly began to believe in myself! But what about? After all, even a tiny success gives us this very belief in ourselves, which we really lack!
But there is another “anti-crisis” recipe. Once I read a psychological article that most people are GOOD, that at the level of instinct, we are ready to rush to the aid of their "relative". The article made a strong impression on me (thanks to the author). The next day, I went out with a smile, confident that the people around me were good creatures. And surprisingly, the seller, it turns out, is not such a wicked person, and in the passport office they can also go towards the execution of documents. There are many such cases. Indeed, we must stop thinking that the world and the people in it are opposed to you!
I used to be afraid of happiness! Stupid thoughts - what if I’m so happy that I’ll smooth out and something will happen? But in our mentality there is such a thing! We spit over our shoulder when we say that everything is fine with us. We are afraid of losing this “good.” Don’t be afraid. God gave us life, but we choose our own path! And what is he, only you know! I don’t want to be afraid to be happy anymore! One life is granted to us! Do not miss the opportunity to enjoy this gift.
ELENA, BY E-MAIL.
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To plan or not?
Yesterday I drew up a plan for the weekend. One of the points was to sunbathe. So on Saturday I took a magazine and went out into the countryside. But the pleasure from sunbathing is absolutely not received. Everything happened according to plan, as if I had worked this time, as if emotions were also planned. After that, I thought: is it worth it to plan?
Planning organizes, and that's a plus. But in a clearly planned life, sometimes there is no room for lightness and impromptu, for positive emotions.
We are in a hurry to catch everything. After all, we are the generation of the 21st century. We live in an era of progress, in an era where it is not customary to sleep, otherwise you will miss the most interesting part.
Everyone plans, and we try to keep up with everyone. Does this not smell like imposed public opinion, can even be called the "standard of the century"?
The other side: when you write down everything, you forget how to think flexibly, to make decisions about unplanned things quickly.
At least the following conclusion suggests itself: you need to plan only in areas that are initially devoid of emotions, or where it’s simply not a matter of experience, just a dry calculation. This is money, business, power, health and much more.
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