Golden Fund of the nation
Our permanent author, psychologist and philosopher Anatoly Nekrasov discusses how to not be afraid of old age and what can be changed by moving into the mature half of life. Our permanent author, psychologist and philosopher Anatoly Nekrasov discusses how to not be afraid of old age and what can be changed by moving into the mature half of life.
Our permanent author, psychologist and philosopher Anatoly Nekrasov discusses how to not be afraid of old age and what can be changed by moving into the mature half of life.
Most often, children, and society as a whole, underestimate the need and importance of older people. It is believed that having worked out the time, having given birth and raising children, they have fulfilled their main task of life, and now they are already a burden that has to be endured. And older people often think the same way. But this is a profound error, in fact, with retirement, the solution to another basic task of life, which few people think about, begins. And what is this task? Raising grandchildren? Not! Although it may be present in life, but this is not the main thing. Everything is much deeper and more important - in accordance with the knowledge and experience of sixty years. Before that, there was the bustle of life, the solution of many "important" tasks, which, as it turned out, were not so important and did not stand the test of time. And after the work left, the children scattered and live their own lives, there is a feeling of uselessness and hopelessness.
Society believes that the future belongs to the young, and everyone forgets that the future is on the shoulders of the past. I believe that older people are the golden foundation of the nation! No wonder there is wisdom: the quality of society can be judged by how it relates to children and to older people. And we have one and the other question are in a difficult situation. The state is trying to change the situation, but this happens with great difficulty. And I believe that the reason for this state of affairs with older people is that neither the state nor the pensioners themselves understand their huge role in society.
But in order for returns to begin from them, they must be invested. Moreover, it is necessary to invest much less than in young people: older people, as a rule, have a roof over their heads, they have minimal needs ... Expenses are needed for education and development. It is for development! It is necessary to develop and educate not only the young, but also the elderly! Many may say: “Why educate older people? Providing them with a living wage, creating normal conditions is enough. ” But let's be wiser. After retirement, a person lives on average 10-15 years or more. What can be done over the years? To live another, qualitatively new life! And thereby lay a qualitatively new foundation for their children and grandchildren and for society as a whole! This is the task that should be set before the elderly and to help them in its solution. They are free, they have time, and most often they do not know what to do with themselves. Some are trying to get a job - at least where, just to work, others are immersed in the garden, others are trying to be useful to their grandchildren ... But in fact, neither one nor the other and the third is the main and most important.
The older generation must be tasked with becoming the wisdom of the race. The older generation can radically change the lives of future generations! It has everything necessary for this: life experience, enough time to take care of yourself and become healthy, the ability to read books and attend lectures, that is, learn wisdom. The thing is small - you need to awaken in them the desire to start a new life and thus really help your children. Much needs to be reviewed, something to learn anew. And that causes fear. Moreover, people are used to dying early, and retirement is often recognized as the closest step to death. The thought arises: is it worth it to revise something, to change something in your life, when you have to live quite a bit? Before my eyes there are a lot of examples of life in which no one changes anything, does not revise. Most people are used to living this way, adapted. And they live in the old way, floating along the well-known and “safe” course of life. The word "safe" is quoted, because in reality, such a life, "like everyone else", is the most dangerous. It is from such a life that most people under the age of seventy die. And now, I propose that the elderly take a different path, not the one that more than 90% of the population take, leading themselves to weakness and to the grave until they are seventy to eighty years old. What do you have to lose? You’ve lived one life at the very least. This should add courage to you! You have already lived SO. Try it differently! Step beyond the horizon of your worldview with which you have lived for half a century and have not achieved so much. What if it turns out to live as much, but even more consciously, interestingly and more vividly? And thereby help your children get out of the wheel of fate. Indeed, the happier and happier the worldview and life of the older generation, the greater the happiness of subsequent generations.
In fact, old age is only in consciousness. Who has a young soul, who embarks on the path of extending his maturity, life can go on happily ever after. I propose that age after sixty is not considered old age, or even late maturity, but second maturity! And after eighty-five, a third maturity will come ... And each stage has its own tasks and its interesting and necessary life! I have tested the said on many people, and there has always been a positive effect. I will give an example with my friend - a scientist, professor, who is over seventy. A few years ago, I let him read my two books: “Rod. A family. Man ”and“ Maternal love ”. Despite skepticism, he read books and was interested in the question of the second maturity. He began to deal with him seriously, and two years later he metamorphosed: he became younger, became active, his relationship with his wife changed radically ... Recently I asked him: “It’s noticed among the people that a man becomes younger if he marries a younger woman, and you are getting younger with your peer. How do you explain this? ” “Time,” he answered, “is a category that submits to feelings more than to the mind.” When a person falls in love, he returns to his youth in his feelings, and if this love lasts for a long time, then his body returns to his young past. And it does not depend much on how old a woman fell in love with a man! So I fell in love with my wife again, and look at our couple - we are both not young in age, and our love makes us younger. ”
Another example. Many have heard of Galina Sergeyevna Shatalova. She lived a difficult life - behind the Finnish and World War II, which she went through as a military surgeon. What is a surgeon at the front, only they know: almost none of them survived to 50 years. But she took fate into her own hands and extended her life almost twice. And not only extended, but also made it interesting, creative and helped a lot of people in this. She is now over ninety, but she continues to work in the field of human recovery, helps people, is full of creative plans. Being next to her, you feel that this is a woman! Indeed, old age is only a function of consciousness. As we think, we live like that, and if we live wisely, then old age will turn into a new stage of maturity ...