Do not put off sex for tomorrow ... if you can do it today
Do you remember how excited you were when you first started dating your man? Remember the thrills that arose when you kissed, touched each other? You could think all day about the upcoming night with him. And during sex you wanted to dissolve into each other.
Let's go back to the present - you are very attached to each other, but the fire of passion has been replaced by a steady light. This inevitably happens to everyone. But do not be upset: you can rekindle passion, if you remember that sex is an important connecting link in your relationship. This is a way to reveal to each other the most intimate, to get closer.
Good sex often accompanies relationships built on trust and respect.
However, sometimes sex can help restore a lost sense of trust and openness. Sex problems can damage other areas of your relationship. Many couples go through a period of lack of sex, put up with it and start to think that they can be good parents, friends and that sex is not so important. But without passion, relationships become fragile. One of the strings that connects you becomes thinner, and any shock, be it a disease, problems with loved ones or an economic crisis, can forever ruin a relationship. Therefore, a waste of energy in maintaining a full sexual life is one of the key ways to maintain a full relationship.
How much sex will be enough?
Of course, there is no norm here, just as there is no universal set of movements for each pair. But still, it is better that the period without sex does not exceed two weeks (unless, of course, this is prevented by a disease or a period of emotional stress). It is very easy to get into a vicious cycle of lack of sex if you are depressed or simply do not want to take the initiative first. But to break out of this circle, just make love! This may not be easy for many women. It seems insincere if at the moment you are in a quarrel with your partner. But, pushing him to action, you will give a new impetus to your relationship. After all, it is thanks to sex that a partner can feel closer to you. When you share physical intimacy, it inspires him to intimacy in other ways.
Sex seals relationships
Have you ever noticed what emotional closeness you and your partner feel after making love? He is usually more gentle with you, he is in a good mood, sometimes even for several days. Any woman who has noticed this will not agree with the conventional wisdom that “all men are so simple” and “all they need is sex.” Sex is not only a physical discharge (although this is also important). These are the connecting threads that allow a man to feel unity with you. Without sex, he feels rejected, disappointed and unattractive to you.
Don't even pretend
Sex can give a new spark to your relationship not only when you feel discord with your partner, but also when you are exhausted and tired after a working day. If you worked all day, bathed and fed the children, and at 10 o’clock he still expects you to have passionate sex, you have nothing but a sense of doom. But try to start a love game yourself, surrender to it, and you may be very surprised to realize that you are enjoying the process. You may want to pretend to be an orgasm. Women often use this trick for many reasons - at least in order to save time and finally go to sleep. But it’s quite natural to simply tell your partner that an orgasm does not occur. You can enjoy the sensations without reaching an orgasm. It may not be clear to men (for them, orgasm is the ultimate and main goal), but it is better that both partners have a realistic idea that having an orgasm does not determine whether sex is good or bad.
Create an atmosphere of passion and tenderness yourself
Naturally, the call: “Just take it and do it!” - easier to pronounce than to put into practice, especially taking into account that the human body and lifestyle tend to change over the years. These simple exercises will help you regain the passion that you felt for each other during the first meetings. Make it a rule to give each other at least one real kiss a day - it should be deep and long. Have a duel of looks. Note the time and carefully look at each other for 2-3 minutes. And try not to laugh at the same time! Take a moment to pay attention to the hands of your partner. Slide your fingers over his fingers, nails, wrists. Try to examine his hands. Pay attention to how strong, soft, beautiful, and gentle they are. Then ask him to do the same with your hands. If you manage to feel your connection with each other using these simple methods, you can move on to a more sophisticated technique to focus your feelings. This technique will help you to liberate yourself emotionally and physically, and open up new sources of pleasure. If for some reason your partner refuses to take part in the exercises, explain to him that you only want to try something new to improve your sexual relationships. He will most likely take part if he knows what you are trying for. Choose a time when nothing and nobody will stop you from completely relaxing.
Stage 1. Stroke and caress non-erogenous zones of the partner’s body,
Stage 2. Now go on to the sensory touch, but don't try to excite each other on purpose. Allocate about 20 minutes to each person again; talking is still forbidden. Put your hand on the partner’s wrist and in moments when you are especially pleased, let him know by squeezing or stopping his hand.
Stage 3. It's time for a mutual touch. If you have not already done so, dispose of your clothing. Your bodies should touch, including the genitals, but no sex! This will allow you to calmly continue the study of the partner’s body without impatiently expecting something more. Enjoy the third step for 20 minutes or longer if you like.
Stage 4. The final stage includes the so-called easy sex. This means that the partner enters into you and simply is in you as much as you want, while you both concentrate on the sensations. If you feel that he is starting to get too carried away, ask him to go out and go back one step to bodily touch. You must overcome the rush of passion. You can complete this stage with traditional sexual intercourse or oral sex. Here you have the freedom of choice! Remember this tactic every time you feel that sex is beginning to turn into a routine for you. Any couple experiences ebbs and flows in sexual life, however, studying your feelings and attention to body signals will help you relive everything.
5 things he needs to know
Try to bring these important things to his attention in the most friendly and accessible way. You can discuss this in the morning after waking up or put it in a playful little note and hide it in the pocket of his jacket - the main thing is that he should learn this information:
Sex is really important (if you still need confirmation). Sex does not have to be central to the relationship between a man and a woman, however, when it does not bring proper satisfaction, it may not affect the life together and turn out to be just “fulfillment of conjugal duty”, therefore it is necessary to lead an active and satisfying sex life.
For most women, a feeling of emotional closeness with a partner serves as a source of desire for sexual intimacy, while in men, as a rule, the opposite is true - in order to feel emotional closeness, they need satisfaction in sex. Therefore, it is natural that a loving partner tries to give him sexual satisfaction, and he tries to ensure that even in the most acute moments she does not lose the feeling of emotional connection with him.
The love foreplay begins long before you enter the bedroom. Remember the very first days of your relationship - flowers, calls or sms during the day, so that you know what he thinks about you, hugs, walks by the hand. A little attention at the moment will determine the mood in the future when it comes to bed.
Female orgasm is not like male. The woman’s ability to orgasm varies from day to day and depends on both your relationships and the processes taking place in her body. Awareness of the fact that a woman will not necessarily have an orgasm every time is the key to the success of your sex life.
HIS most secret sex question:
“I often lose an erection when we change postures while making love. How can I avoid this? ”
There is nothing to worry about. Weakening and strengthening of an erection during sex is normal. During an erection, less oxygen enters the penis, so the voltage drops in the tissues simply allow them to “breathe” better. If such malfunctions take away your ardor, try varying one position slightly, instead of changing it sharply to another. Result? New sensations without loss of rhythm. For example, when you are in a missionary position and her legs are at your waist, try shifting them onto your shoulders and placing a pillow under her back for deeper penetration. It's okay if you accidentally disconnect during these actions. The main thing is to continue kissing and touching each other, and the old thrills will instantly return.
HER most secret sex question:
“I dearly love my husband, but lately have been fantasizing about sex with a woman. What's happening?"
Such fantasies are common and do not necessarily reflect your actual desires. It is possible to consider the female body attractive, while not experiencing attraction to women. Sometimes the very thought of exploring unknown territories can be exciting. Perhaps your curiosity is aroused by such options in sex that you and your partner have not tried. Maybe in your fantasies there is an element of adventure, something that you lack in real sex life? Think about what you are missing and try to bring it to life. And if you are brave, just tell him about your fantasies, in such a piquant way you will get closer even more. And do not hold back your imagination, you need to accept fantasies as they are. Everything that excites you can only improve your sex life.