My husband is a wimp!
What to do to a woman whose husband has neither ambition nor the desire to conquer career heights?
We have been together with Andrei for 15 years, and all these years I have been working with sweat. In the morning and afternoon at the office, and in the evening at home. What distinguishes me from a draft horse is that it is fed for its labors, but I earn my own bread. Already grown up to the boss, and my husband never made a career - there are absolutely no fighting qualities in him, not a gram of ambition. And I'm tired of being responsible for everything and dragging my family around. Why is such a marriage necessary? -Irina, 37 years old
Any woman wants to see next to her a strong, intelligent, reliable man who will be her support in everything. However, not every woman can get along with such a man - it is difficult for two leaders to be together. On the one hand, a strong man used to take the initiative in his own hands, set goals and achieve them, he is active and firm. This, of course, is his positive qualities. But, as you know, any medal has a downside. The disadvantages of strong men include authoritarianism, lack of flexibility, empathy and understanding. Sometimes they are prone to rudeness, do not want to reckon with the opinions of others and are absolutely confident in their rightness. Not every woman is ready to meekly obey and go in the wake of other people's decisions.
But men who are reproached for the lack of masculinity are capable of empathy - they are more flexible, compliant, ready to put up with other people's flaws. Unfortunately, these undoubted advantages turn into minuses when it comes to careers and earning benefits for the family. It turns out that both strong and weak men have their own advantages and disadvantages. Therefore, happiness in marriage depends on which type is closer to a particular woman. Since Irina is a leader by nature, it will be difficult for her to build strong relations with the same leader - a struggle for power will certainly begin between them, in which no one wants to lose.
Nevertheless, one can understand Irina - it is hard to bear the burden of responsibility on her shoulders. While we are young, we have enough strength for everything. But with age, fatigue accumulates and the situation, which seemed quite acceptable before, ceases to suit. Irina is tired, and this tiredness provokes constant irritation. But, before making radical changes, that is, destroying a marriage, it is better to try to change the situation within the family. Let Andrei not be ambitious and not able to provide for his family as Irina wants. But on the other hand, he can take on some of the household duties, which will allow Irina to rest more at home, rather than standing at the stove or checking her child’s homework. And do not look back at the patriarchal laws that determined a woman’s place in the kitchen. Arrange life as you like. Today, money is earned by someone who gets it better, regardless of gender. And if a woman brings the main income to the family, this does not mean at all that she is unhappy, and her marriage is unsuccessful - any model of marriage based on love has a right to exist.
According to statistical studies, in 89% of Russian companies women hold senior positions. By this indicator, Russia came out on top in the world, ahead of the Philippines and the United States. In small businesses, there are only 8% fewer women managers than men.